Guess what? You can be spiritual AND a kinky nasty freak.
Permission to want what you want and let go of the intellectualization of your darkest fantasies.
Just because you sometimes like to be choked, spanked, spit on, tied up, and aggressively f*cked doesn’t make you disempowered, toxic, less “healed,” or a bad feminist.
Just because you get off from consensually witnessing the humiliation, agony, and pain of your lover doesn’t make you heartless, less enlightened, or mentally ill.
Just because you get outrageously turned on by soft, slow, gentle, romantic lovemaking doesn’t make you boring, undesirable, repressed, or not “wild enough.”
Let’s collectively release our need to make anything inherently mean anything —
Especially when it comes to the vast, nuanced, shapeshifting realms of sexuality.
Your fantasies, no matter how socially unacceptable, do NOT determine your goodness, “purity,” divinity, morality, or even who you are as a person.
They are the culmination of many, many things… and I believe our job is not to “figure them out” or intellectualize, pathologize, or psychoanalyze ourselves.
“Sacred sexuality” is not one specific way of living, loving, relating, or f*cking.
And what makes sex sacred is not dependent on the form that it takes.
Sacred sexuality is recognizing and experiencing the innate divinity of your authentic desires, impulses, and sexual expression.
– NO MATTER HOW seemingly dark, twisted, f*cked up, or weird.
Or even how seemingly boring, average, and vanilla.
You don’t need hours of intense eye gazing and ecstatic chakra breathing on a white silk-draped bed covered in rose petals and surrounded by candles for your sex to be holy, Tantric, or sacred…
Although that can definitely be worthwhile :)
God is just as present when you’re bent over the coffee-stained kitchen counter for a sleep-deprived quickie as your baby starts screaming their head off in the next room.
I’ve seen again and again that one of the simplest, yet most liberating and life-changing elements of my coaching containers is for people to finally give themselves permission to:
1) Want what they ACTUALLY want
2) Be a messy human
Your raw, honest desires do not make you any less spiritual, healed, enlightened, lovable, desirable, or worthy
In fact, I believe your desires are seeds of consciousness planted within you, wanting to be watered, nourished, and expressed through you in this lifetime.
They are signposts guiding you directly to your own healing, expansion, gifts, and wisdom.
Will you have the courage to listen?
To listen to them and dignify them and allow them to see the light of day?
The world is better for it.