This is what takes an erotic experience from “good” to “That was f**king insane. Where am I?”
This is what takes an erotic experience from “good” to... “That was f**king insane. Where am I?”
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You see, pleasure is the interplay between excitement/arousal and enjoyment/bliss.
Pleasure is the dance between activation and deep, relaxed presence.
It’s the expansion of sensations in the body and having the level of presence and “letting go” that’s needed to actually savor it.
Pleasurable sensations without the surrender-like element of allowing yourself to “fall into” and “lose yourself to” the experience is limiting the ecstasy that’s available within you.
What takes an erotic experience from “nice” to “that was f**king insane” is your ability to actively surrender to and be present with your building arousal.
The foundation for any of this to happen is establishing safety within yourself.
Again, pleasure is the interplay between excitement/arousal and enjoyment/bliss.
Excitement and arousal are felt as a gradual increase in the neural firings in our nervous system.
Enjoyment and bliss are felt as a gradual decrease of neural firings in our nervous system.
For some of my clients, they’ve been operating in a state of freeze, numbness, and shutdown for so long that they’ve lost connection with their sympathetic nervous system responses (fight, flight, excitement, arousal, drive).
For others, their bodies chronically feel “on guard” in hypervigilance, high stress, anxiety, and activation, and are unable to rest, relax, let go, enjoy the present moment, and access an inner sense of peace (signs of a healthy parasympathetic nervous system response).
The best thing you can do for your sex life, pleasure, and intimacy is cultivate safety in your nervous system.
Safety is the prerequisite for life-changing orgasms, liberated and authentic expression, the free flow of sexual energy, opening to deeper intimacy, and connection to your wild, primal, unbound eroticism.
To fully surrender to our pleasure, we must feel safe enough to ride the waves of this wild, nonlinear, unpredictable force.
We must feel safe enough to release control, let go of identities, and fall into the mystery.
We must feel safe enough to trust something beyond our human self & mental constraints.
We must feel safe enough in our relationship with Life itself.
This is what makes orgasm a spiritual practice. This is what makes sex somewhere we go, not something we do.
This takes practice.
It takes re-imprinting your body and nervous system (over time and repetition) with the lived experience that it is safe to be wild, sexual, liberated, authentic, and filled with blissful pleasure.
I’m offering a class this Friday to teach you exactly this (+ you'll receive access to the recording).
Inner Sanctum is the somatic Erotic Education workshop for women, empowering you to awaken internal pleasure + pelvic aliveness, increase vaginal sensitivity, enhance self-love and self-intimacy, gently release sexual blockages, and rediscover your body as the living, erotic temple it is.
You’ll learn the wildly powerful practice of Yoni Mapping, a therapeutic modality that you can offer to yourself to truly come home to your sexuality, body, pleasure, and erotic power.
This is the same practice that I’ve taught to private clients, facilitated in group immersions, and used to heal and integrate my OWN past trauma, boundary ruptures, stored tension, numbness, and unresolved emotions.
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It's time.
With love and pleasure,
Nadine
Nadine Hamilton
Integrative Sex & Embodiment Coach ⊹ Somatic Intimacy Educator ⊹ Host of The Sensuous