This is why speaking your authentic truth, needs, and desires to your partner feels f**king terrifying
Read this to discover how to get to the ROOT of the issue, start rebuilding your confidence and self-trust, and express yourself congruently.
“Communicating my needs and desires feels f**king terrifying. I can barely even identify what my truth IS when I’m in a relationship. I lose my sense of Self."
^ This sentiment is incredibly common in the clients I’ve coached.
When you’ve been imprinted during childhood with the belief that authenticity leads to abandonment, rejection, shame, or the withholding of love, your brain becomes “wired” to associate authentic, liberated expression with a threat to your survival.
Your nervous system will equate vulnerability and being seen with the same protective response as being chased by a lion 🏃♀️
Voicing your honest feelings will start to trigger a fight-or-flight response in the body.
You see – as a child, if you’re in a situation where you must choose between authenticity or maintaining attachment to your caregivers… you will choose attachment almost every single time.
When you are repeatedly told as a kid:
“Calm down. You’re so sensitive.”
“Stop being dramatic. You’re overreacting.”
“Suck it up. It’s not a big deal.”
“Get it together. That’s enough.”
… You’ll start to believe:
❤️🩹 Your feelings make you unlovable and are not to be trusted
❤️🩹 Honoring your truth leads to pain and isolation
❤️🩹 It’s safer to dissociate and have all of your attention outside of your body
❤️🩹 Your emotions and sensitivity are something to fear
This psycho-emotional incongruence becomes your somatic “shape.”
In other words, the misalignment between your inner experience and outer expression (or mask) quite literally becomes the physiological “posture” that you take on.
It becomes the physical and energetic way that you move through the world – including your voice, facial expressions, movements, posture, level of tension, and sensorial perception of reality.
The. body. does. not. lie.
And is never separate from the mind.
This means we cannot “think our way” to true confidence, empowerment, intimacy, trust, inner security, and authentic, congruent expression.
Talk therapy, mindset work, journal prompts, and affirmations will never get to the root 🌱
If the body is not deeply listened to, honored, and centered, you’re only playing with the tippppp of the iceberg.
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With love and pleasure,
Nadine